I am a divorce lawyer who has divorced. This is the truth that no one tells you about marriage and prenup

Years later, I crossed my own divorce. It was all that “taught” me at the Faculty of Law.

I said to myself, “You know what to do, you have helped so many customers to sail on this subject before.”

But just like being in a car accident, you don’t really understand the devastation he has on your life, no matter how many times you have seen in the movies, put your seat belt and examine your car insurance policy, until they arrive.

Even with the “perfect” contract contract, no one is immune to emotional turbulence to end a marriage. But because we had these conversations difficult in advance, the process was clearer, calmer and much more manageable than it would have been. This preparation was a gift – not only for me, but also for my daughter and my ex -husband.

This is what reinforced my conviction of building Hell: The first online defendant platform to make the contracts fast, affordable and accessible. I wanted couples everywhere to have the same chance of entering marriage with peace of mind, without unnecessary cost or conflict, no matter what life brings their way. But above all – create a legally guided space where difficult conversations can be had to make the longevity and health of marriage priority, while a plan is put in place.

100% of weddings end – and most of the purposes are painful

In addition to taxes and changes, there is an additional guarantee in life: all weddings will end – either in death, at 60%, or in divorce at 40%. However, only 33% have a inheritance plan in place in the event of death, and worse, only 15% have a contract contract in the event of divorce. This means that the majority of marriages are vulnerable to emotional, financial and fascinating experiences when they are in mourning one of the most devastating losses they have ever suffered.

Without the contract of contract, couples are forced to count on the government during one of the most vulnerable moments of their lives, often faced with unnecessary financial tension while sailing outdated and swollen systems. According to the justice report on justice for legal services 2022, 92% of low -income Americans receive little or no legal aid in serious civil issues, including family law. When people represent themselves, even a small error can cost them custody, property or long -term financial stability. Family law is complex – even for trained professionals – but most families must face it alone, a reality that undermines the very principles of our judicial system.

With the most unprotected with a plan, I am on a mission to help other couples to build a solid base through a more profitable and accessible way that prepares couples for marriage thanks to preputial online chords.

After being the first company Legaltech on Shark Tank and with the support of investors like Kevin O’Leary and Nirav Tolia, we helped more than 100,000 people have significant conversations in advance without the time and the costs of a lawyer by the advantages of a contract of contract.

Is no longer reserved for the rich elite, prenutes become standard among the millennials and Genz. 75% of Helloprenup users are under 40, with a median net value of only $ 78,000. It is not babies of trust – it is young professionals every day who have seen the damage that the divorce can do. They know that marriage is not only a question of love; It is also a binding financial contract which can be expensive, contradictory and devastating to get out of it if things go wrong.

Beyond the protection of wealth, the preparation contracts protect your marriage.

Prénups were once considered a bad omen, signaling a lack of commitment. In reality, they work more like preventive medicine. The prenutes help couples to approach the strongest predictors of divorce before becoming toxic to ensure the health and longevity of marriage.

By openly discussing these predictors and expectations at the beginning, couples strengthen their relationship instead of waiting for it to be “sick” with conflict. These frank and thoughtful conversations on the scenarios and potential solutions allow partners to put themselves on the same wavelength and build long -term healthy habits which can ultimately avoid the damage of a divorce.

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The millennials and Genz question societal standards on the basis of the lessons learned from previous generations. They get married later (the average age of a user of Helloprenup is 37, ten years older than the average age ten years ago), exchanging sumptuous ceremonies for house payments and having pets and plants instead of children.

These couples also bring more complex situations to the relationship than 20 years ago. One or the other of the parties could have houses, companies, retirement accounts or jostles before getting married. Many have student loans or other debts, and 75% expect to inherit their parents’ significant sums as part of the great transfer of wealth.

A out of 10 Helloplrenup user has divorced in the past, and the others probably know someone who has lived it. With divorce rates at an amazing summit of 50% and second weddings oscillating about 70%, there is more incentive than ever to plan in advance.

In the absence of a contract contract, couples are at the mercy of the laws of their state to dictate the terms of divorce. The last thing that most of all want is to trust their state finances. The traditional family law can be archaic, incoherent and not aligned with the realities of modern relations. They were designed for heterosexual couples, where only the husband works, while the woman raises the family. Today, more women are the main family supporters and their male counterparts enter domestic roles to support the family.

Infidelity and other important conversations

Infidelity is one of the most common subjects addressed in a contract contract: 36% of couples choose to include an infidelity clause, a number that has increased by 3% since February 2025.

But the infidelity clauses are not only to establish penalties for cheating – they consist in defining expectations. There are infinite ways that a couple can define infidelity: does this slip into someone’s DMS on social networks, engages in sexual intercourse or somewhere between the two? The prenutes oblige couples to agree on this definition, perhaps even by fixing terms for an open marriage or other relational limits. And he holds the two responsible parties: the amount of median damage for infidelity is $ 50,000, and with a median net value of $ 233,000, a case depicts almost 25%.

Modern constraint contracts can also cover:

Fertility: One in six people is affected by infertility. 10% of Helloprenup couples add an embryo clause in their contract contract to establish reproductive property conditions. This is more and more important because certain laws of the state are looking into to attribute the status of personality of the embryos. A reproductive clause, including the conditions of arrangement, can protect your reproductive future, ensure that the possibility of having children is under the terms of the couple and does not add pressure to find a partner during the construction of a career.

Pets: One in three couple includes a pet clause spending custody, visit conditions, how expenses such as veterinarian bills and pet insurance will be processed and who has the last word in care decisions.

Pension support / spouse: If a partner sacrifices career progress to raise children or support the business or career of the other, an employment contract can guarantee that any support for alimony / spouse paid is sufficient and in accordance with the expectations of the partner and the standard of living during marriage.

Debt protection: If a party brings debt to the relationship or if it accumulates it during marriage by returning to school, starting a business or at stake, the law of the state can consider that all the debts are shared, which makes the two individuals responsible. A contract contract allows couples to determine how it must be managed (95% opt to keep the debt separate).

Affordable preus: the great equalizer

By formalizing expectations (financial, behavioral and emotional), an affordable contract contract is the branch of Olivier which allows modern couples to take advantage of the advantages of a committed marriage while ensuring that they are not destroyed financially or emotionally in the event of dissolution.

They allow couples to protect their rights, maintain independence and avoid obsolete laws. Whatever sex, wealth or history, prenutes offer empowerment, equity and peace of mind, allowing couples to focus on love and build their future together. And above all – they create a plan for the inevitable fact that each marriage will end, it is simply a question of knowing how and if a couple is prepared or not.

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