People in the happiest relationships talk about 5 things every day

One of the most common myths on long -term relationships is that couples end up lacking things to say. It is easy to believe: life is busy, routines take over and conversations become more on logistics than on connection.

As a psychologist who studies couples and, depending on my own experience, I know how delicate communication can become if you are convinced that there is nothing left to say. But couples in healthy relationships are used to talking about things that matter every day.

Their conversations remain fresh, connected and significant because they never stop learning on top of each other. Here are five things that people in the happiest relationships talk to each other every day – that most people neglect.

Couples in prosperous relationships always make a duty to verify and ensure that the other partner is happy.

Some days, that means asking: “Do you feel like it? Supported? Connected?” Other days, it is a question of expressing your appreciation, of sharing a laugh on a favorite memory or of talking about something they are looking forward to doing together.

Having these daily checks helps prevent small misunderstandings from transformed into more important problems.

In the strongest relationships, the two partners remain curious to know what excites the other. It could be a song that they cannot stop listening, a book they have devoured, a hobby they explore or even a Tiktok that made them laugh.

It doesn’t matter if their interests overlap, they remain curious about the other’s passions. This is what keeps the spark alive.

During their years together, these small updates may remember the most important thing to remember in a relationship: “We grow and evolve constantly, and we do it together.”

Happy couples are never stuck in the present or the past. They often have conversations on long -term goals: owning a house, traveling more, starting a business or raising children.

They also do not hesitate to less practical and more fanciful subjects, like what they would do with a year of leave, how they would renovate their dream cuisine or where they would go if money was not a concern.

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To discuss dreams, no matter how much the relationship has oriented towards the future by instilling in a common sense of the goal and the possibility. Even if a dream cannot be acted immediately, talking about it allows them to follow the values of the other.

Happy couples are not uncomfortable evoking what bothers them. A healthy relationship should look like a safe space where couples can solve their problems together in a team.

Whether it’s a difficult day of work, persistent insecurity or even a fear of the relationship itself, they trust their partner to respond with empathy.

Over time, this daily practice of being emotionally honest reinforces a strong feeling of security. The two partners will never have the impression of having to carry their luggage alone.

Even a half trained reflection can be a fun way to connect. Happy couples never reflect twice before sharing their random ideas: their shower thoughts, their “What-Iifs” theories, their theories “that just in mind”.

And these do not always have to be deep or deep. In fact, they are generally quite stupid, strange or apparently out of words. The addition of a little playfulness and spontaneity in each conversation also makes room for laughter and even intimacy.

I always remind couples that a large part of the creation of a successful relationship is to be intentional with the conversations you choose to have. Couples who remain connected day after day create a shared space for curiosity, growth and joy.

Mark TraversPHD is a psychologist specializing in relationships. He holds diplomas from Cornell University and the University of Colorado Boulder. He is the main psychologist at Awakened therapyA TV company that provides online psychotherapy, advice and coaching. He is also curator of the popular mental health and well-being website, Therapytips.org.

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